RELATIONSHIP: Give Sex The Right Priority and Enjoy A Good Relationship

Do you know how much hugging and cuddling your partner needs before and after intercourse? How about the sexual fantasies each partner nurtures? Paying a little attention to our sex life may be all it takes to transform it to an intense experience. Couples put lots of efforts into their career, friendship and parenting -they read books and improve on all other areas in their lives. Well, that is not a bad idea at all. But good sex requires the same level of learnt information and attention, which means making time for sex matters a lot.

Hug each other for 20 seconds each day and flirt with each other. Even when there isn’t time for sex, make sure your mate knows you want to have one with him or her at any possible time. Leave a romantic message on your partner’s phone or e-mail. Daydream about making love to your spouse while doing the laundry, dishes, and while at work or during your free time and so on. Once in a while, while getting ready for bed, light a scented candle and play romantic music on the radio or CD player. This is one of the best firework stimulants. Anytime the opportunity arises, give your spouse a one-minute shoulder rub.

Go as far as renting a romantic movie and watch it together after the children might have retired to their rooms. One of the secrets of sexual firework is that the fervour, closeness and passion must never be taken for granted because one in three men wishes their wives were better in bed.

Be generous outside of the bedroom with foot rubs, shoulder rubs and loving words. Little signs of affection can build up and put you both in a mood that you weren‘t necessarily expecting. Do you bathe together? It is not a bad idea before bed time, seeing the glistening body of each other is not only sexy; it sparks raw fire. No harm happens to the marriage union when partners play together. It helps keep the mind fit, relieves stress and provides opportunity to work as life partners. It builds camaraderie and spices things up in the bedroom. 

Note that while playing together, wives should remember to put on seductive underwear. Most men like those attractive colours, especially the ones that are seductively designed.

Don‘t forget to break away from the children‘s grip and everyday life chores by eloping out once or twice a year; it enables couples to loosen up and focus on themselves once in a while. Go ahead, become each other‘s baby and share yester-years’ stories. Remember you can‘t sit around waiting for someone to make you happy, and that goes for séxual happiness too. When there is a raise in salary, the arrival of a new car or something new and special happens in the family, you can think up an extraordinary way of celebrating it.

Pay yourselves compliments as ladies expect and need compliments as much as men. If he knows that you think he’s sexy, he’ll try harder in bed to please you and prove that you’ re right. With one compliment a week, firework flame comes alive.

In all you do as a couple, put sex first because there is no substitute for sex. Let it top your day-to-day priority. It’s harder to find time together when the children are either toddlers or teenagers-they stay up later than you do and most times know what you are up to. So, sometimes you have to put your relationship first before the children; that could mean sneaking into the visitor’s room, the pent house or the master bedroom bathroom to have a short warm sexual escapade together. And it’s worth it. The fact remains that when these children are long gone, it is what both of you practise now that you will continue to do. So, don’t ignore your day-to-day activities and hide-and-seek-game. If both of you are not sexually naughty now, you may both bore yourselves to death when they [the kids] are long gone.

It is of topmost importance to husbands to know that their wives need them sexually. And these husbands want to come home to a ‘pure’ outlet. It does not matter if the wife is pregnant, nursing a baby or has reached menopause. Sensitivity and compromise must be a watchword here.

As far as a man is concerned, sexual relationship with their wives is more of physical and emotional tranquiliser; it enables them to relax afterwards. They solve life issues better subsequently after sex, become calm and relaxed. A sexually fulfilled man is a better giver, better lover and a better dad.

Therefore, pregnant and nursing wives should know that the sexual desire of their husbands is basically a matter of hormonal functions and regulations. It is also ever-present and they need the physiological release. So, when a wife at any stage of motherhood maintains an enthusiastic sexual interaction in the marriage relationship, her husband feels more secured and desirable as he grows older. Such husbands are better fathers, providers and home makers. In all you do, put sex first if you want the firework back!!!