The role of the social
media in building relationships and businesses cannot be overemphasized. But
the negative aspects seem to be growing with mixed reactions after the death of
Cynthia Osokogu who was killed by friends she met on social media.
Since the case of
Cynthia went viral, ladies who were before now ashamed to share their
experiences in the hands of bad guys have started talking.
Below is the
near-death experience a young lady had with a man who was her BBM friend:
I am a girl who has
fears, beliefs, reservations and just your regular typical Nigerian girl. This
past few weeks has been one hell of a game for me. I have really been unsettled
and I thought I share this story with you.
When Cynthia (the lady
killed in the hotel room in Festac, Lagos) surfaced on the internet and various
news media, I was scared and it brought back a whole lot of memories to me and
also served as and eye opener. Many people castigated and criticized Cynthia
(may her gentle soul rest in peace), but my point is, it could have been
anybody, anybody at all.
We have met people
through various social media. Some have ended up well, some have not but with
painful memories. To cut the long story short, let me kindly share with you my
encounter with social media especially the very popular Blackberry Messenger
(BBM).
I am a graduate and
currently serving in Kaduna. I could have runced it, but I needed somewhere to
clear my head and forget about my ugly encounter. Here is my story.
I happened to have a
married man as a contact on my BBM. He had been asking me out for over six
months and I refused to date him. As time went on, he invited me clubbing with
him when his wife was outside the country, and I went with him all night. We
spent most of the night at Swe bar, Lagos.
I also met his clique
of friends, married as well with their various mistresses. We had ‘mad’ fun.
After all the clubbing and drinking, he lodged me in a hotel somewhere in
Obalende. I felt sort of safe with him. We did not have sex, but he made sweet
love to me and touched me in places I had never ever imagined.
He kissed me
passionately but guess what? He did not have sex with me. We did all sorts but
there was no penetration. So, to an extent, I trusted he was a good person to
be around with. I did not know that it was all part of the plan.
He gave me N10,000 and
put me in a cab to go home the next morning. We kept talking and chatting and
sending naked pictures to each other and he told me naughty things of how he
wanted to whisper things in my ear, I blushed. We didn’t see for two weeks and
that was because his wife just came back from Turkey.
One faithful evening,
he pinged me that he was organising a beach party/boat cruise and that he would
love for me to be his date and that he wanted to open a BBM chat, as a medium
for his friends and my friends to interact. I was excited about it, I just
wanted to have fun. I was able to get five of my very hot friends.
The BBM group opened
and we got chatting. I also realise that majority of them were married and
working in reputable firms. It was fun and we didn’t mind if they were married,
we just wanted to have fun, as well as some other girls apart from my friends
in the group.
We chatted
exclusively, sent pictures to the BBM group to introduce ourselves, and we had
opened group conversations pending the beach party. And as excited as we were,
we went shopping for nice sexy beach wears.
The D-day finally
came, we all assembled at the Lagos Island Boat Club. I was wowed because it
was a high class party. We were cruising in a boat loaded with goodies drinks
and hot babes, and as well ‘MARRIED MEN’. I did not care, I just said in my
mind that I would not roll with married men anymore after this, that for now,
all I wanted to do was to catch some fun. After all, I wasn’t paying bills.
We got there, it was a
private beach resort. Most of the beach facilities I got to see there were
owned by multinational companies. We got out of the boat, and went to where we
were partying. It was a duplex made with wood. It was a very nice setting.
I felt comfortable
because it even had a fence around it separating it from other beach houses
around. So, there was privacy and of course bouncers (heavy looking guys)
guarding the place. I said to myself, this must be heaven, I must be dreaming.
Anyways, we felt free
with each other because we had been chatting. It was 5:30pm and the party just
started. We had drinks flowing from the private bar tender which happens to be
owned by one of the men in the group. Reality struck when I realised that I was
feeling dizzy and feeling really funny and light headed. Not only me, but other
girls around me too noticed there was something strange about it.
I was also feeling
HORNY as hell! I had been drugged. They monitored us and when they knew the
drug had really gone deep into our system, they moved us up into the main beach
house. I could still see faces, but was too weak and horny to react.
Mr B, the man who took
me clubbing, carried me in his hands like a sacrifice and put me down on the
floor just as other men also did with their girls. We were eight in numbers; 8
girls, 8 guys, and they all stripped us down and had sex with us.
I enjoyed it a bit
because I was horny. It was a mixed feeling because I cried, I moaned, but I
did not know how many times he came into me. He pounded me hard. I was dizzy,
but he grabbed me with force. All I could notice was the wedding ring on his
finger. I thought of how wicked and miserable some married can be. How inhuman
and heartless they could be.
All of them took turns
in switching partners and slept with all of us. I passed out. That was the last
thing I could remember. I felt water poured on me. I noticed all the other
girls around me too were half naked and some stark naked.
We spent the night at
the beach, but the men were no where to be found. I looked round me and all I
could see was packs of used condoms. I ran to pick my cloths and possibly raise
an alarm. I got dressed, found my phone with an envelope. It contained N16,000
and a note asking us to take N2000 each for transport. Tears of anger and rage
filled my eyes and the girls around me as well.
“We were drugged and
used like tissue paper. I grabbed my phone and noticed a ping came in. I
checked my phone and I noticed the BBM group had been deleted, and a message
via BBM from MR B came in. He threatened me that if I say a word to anyone, I
would regret it.
I told him he was a
bastard, and he said try it. A picture came in, several pictures. In fact, they
were pictures of us being naked on the floor. Pictures of the humiliating us
but they blurred the faces of the men. In total, I got 20 pictures. I was not
myself for a month.
I went back to school,
I had no one to talk to. The rest of the semester was hell for me. My CGPA
dropped drastically. It was the worst out of the worst result I ever had.
Till today, my friends
and I have not discussed this with anyone, but all I could do when I heard of
Cynthia’s story was to narrate my own ordeal anonymously and spread the news,
the word, and pray they (ladies who do runs) see it and changed their ways.
I am now born again. I
have given my life to Christ. I fear men so much that I cannot even move close
to them. I still have nightmares, but with time, God will strengthen me and I
will move on. My advice to single ladies out there is, do not be desperate for
fun. Pray to God to open your eyes of understanding, and pray hard. He who
kneels before God will stand before kings and queens.
To all married women,
pray hard to God to intervene in your marriages and turn your husbands from bad
habits and bad friends. As for me, I do not think I ever want to get married or
date a man again. That chapter has been closed for good in my life.
Culled from: gotgist.com
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